IMPORTANT NOTE: I understand that quite a few replies have cropped up in the time it's taken me to type this out, and I can say that I've had a slight change of views in reading through those (as my last few sentences will hopefully convey)--however, I still have some bearing in retaining the thoughts contained herein despite moving to a less angry frame of mind, and frankly don't feel like self-censorship due to a couple of new developments. I'm not necessarily intending to reignite shit with this post so much as provide a very straightforward conveyance of how I feel on certain aspects of the matter. If it does happen to start things up again and/or becomes too problematic, I'll gladly make necessary edits to remove or alter the tone of any troublesome sections. But basically, a lot of this is slightly outdated (but not necessarily gone from my mind and feelings) due to new thread developments--please bear that in mind going forward.
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For someone claiming to be going the high road, you're doing an awful lot of work trying to "so what" people who've had something to say on the matter. You could be doing worse, but that doesn't mean what you're doing now is good.
What you have done with Tom is the approximate equivalent of the tired old "I can't pay you in money, but it'll be GREAT for getting you exposure" routine artists have had to put up with basically forever. Artists can't live off of exposure, and unless you're willing to put forth the effort to verify that you've indeed sent him additional money as you claim, I have no reason to believe the statement beyond the purchase price of the works you own--it feels way too much like a "yeah but you don't know THIS, so haha" turnaround.
You say you were withholding his name in order to have some big grand reveal of everything in some spiffy documentary (which would conveniently have your name all over it), but allow me to ask you something, if you'll even answer and not just deflect it as we've seen you do in the past.
Has Tom been okay with this? Is he aware that this is your plan? Have you discussed the matter with him and informed him that you're totally not hanging him out to dry because you wanna have a big reveal later that you can also put your own name out there on? Has he agreed to this if you have?
Basically, unless there's a confirmable case of evidence that Tom is not only aware of your methods, but also in agreement with them, there is no real way for those of us who've seen your past behaviors to take anything you say herein seriously or as something to be considered truthful. What you've done in here went from a seemingly good levelling and implied regret as to past actions to what more or less amounts of "yeah, I did it my way, big whoop wanna fight about it?"
In my case at least, until I see irrefutable evidence that dictates that Tom is not only aware of your supposed plans, but is also in on them and in full agreement with how they're operating, I will not view what you have done as anything but a monumental disrespect and show of ignorance to an artist who's spent a very long time unknown for his increasingly-popular work. As an artist myself, I can speak for myself when I say that I would never willingly agree to a situation like what you're doing to Tom unless I had an absolute guaranteed boom of popularity and recognition upon its completion (and even then probably not).
It's not about the amount of popularity he may get if/when this documentary ever gets made. It's not about what you think is more of a priority. In a lot of ways, it's not really even about money.
Tom is an artist, with work he's gone unknown for for quite a while; you have known this correlation for some time, and have even been in contact with him; you have continually withheld his identity with nothing but cheap runarounds and suspiciously red-flag reasons as to why you've done so; and finally, you claim that you wanted to wait until your documentary to reveal his name to the public en masse, when you could have just as easily made the reveal on a smaller scale earlier and also made the film.
Hell, assuming you're even genuine in your reasons for making said film, from an advertising standpoint what's gonna garner more attention? Something interesting just dropped out of the blue, or something interesting being slightly revealed at one point with the rest being divulged at greater detail in a later documentary? You could have just as easily revealed Tom as the artist and gotten people talking and interested and gathered in the subject again, and THEN made the announcement for your planned film--you'd have already had an audience built up at that point and you wouldn't have had to do something shameful like purposefully withhold an artist's name and credit for the sake of your own project.
You claim to want to promote Tom's art, but so far all I've seen you do is take steps to do the opposite--tell me, for all your claims about how you love the man, or how much you want to do this or that to promote him, or how much you value his art, or how you handled the situation--how much longer are you going to prattle on about yourself and what you think about all this before you actually fill people in on what Tom's thoughts on it all really are? Are you honestly so conceited that you believe your own thoughts and considerations to be above those of the artist you're claiming to want to support?
At any rate, until I see provable material of Tom's thoughts on what you've done and plan to do (and I keep saying things like "provable" because I fully intend to fact-check anything you might post to ensure it's genuinely from his own mouth and mind), all I've seen here and elsewhere is you seeming to care less about Tom and his work and more about keeping his side of things hidden in your own corner until you deem the time right to let other people know just what the hell his story and art is about.
So until I see information beyond reasonable doubt that Tom's both aware of and on board with what you've been doing all this time, what you've done to the man in withholding his name and credit is an insult to his artistic merit and shameful display of your own conceit, just as it would be to any artist in the same unfortunate circumstances.
You continue to say things like "people aren't discussing the art, sad," when that should be a bell going off in your head.
People here know his art, and many people like his art. Many of us don't need to discuss it right now to enjoy it.
That people are going after you for your treatment of Tom and your overall handling and intent behind the scenes should be telling of what people are more concerned about here--sure it's great to finally know the guy's name, but that's small potatoes compared to the way you've kept him in the dark all this time purely on the basis of your own point of view.
You don't sound like you "love" Tom at all, or even really care about him, since all you've been doing is defending yourself and your side of things rather than doing and saying anything that might actually benefit him. If you had so much trouble tracking him down, and "knocked your head against a wall for two years" trying to do so, then why the seven hells would you actively withhold that information from other fans in the same boat?
You had a situation where you could've said "you know, this really sucked for me to go to all the effort to figure out, and there are other people who are also trying the same thing--I could share my findings with them and help them not to have to deal with all the headaches and hair-pulling I had to go through" and instead you decided on "you know, this really sucked for me to go to all the effort to figure out, and there are other people who are also trying the same thing--eh, fuck 'em, let 'em figure it out on their own, if they're not ready for the crazy amount of digging it took me then they don't deserve to know and I don't really want to let slip this information they clearly want because that somehow magically degrades the work I put into figuring it out."
Sure, I'm hyperbolizing for effect, but you get the point.
I haven't seen a single thing from you that conveys that you actually give a shit about Tom as anything beyond a carrot you can dangle over people for your own selfish amusement. For all of what we've seen you post both here and elsewhere, you strongly appear to have taken deliberate and active measures against the very goal (spreading word of his work and supporting him as an artist to that end) you claim to be working towards.
Surely you can see how this contradictory set of circumstances might look from the outside, no? If this kind of situation and feedback is something you didn't want, then perhaps you should've revealed things sooner so that people would know all the facts and details from the start, rather than try and fill in the blanks based on guesses and inferences and readings into your personality based on your posts of self-defense, or at the very least made a more concise attempt to honestly level the things you didn't want to talk about with everyone.
As it stands, I haven't seen anything yet that gives me any indication that you value Tom as an artist as you claim to, that he supports what you're doing (if he even knows at all), or that you're willing to take more critical feedback without resorting to blanket retorts and over-defensiveness towards your own opinion (i.e. "I did it on my timetable, so what? I've done this, what do you know?", etc.).
If this means that I've now posted things that you are uncomfortable with and it turns out that I've simply made a serious misreading based on a near-total lack of solid information, then I will readily offer my apologies should that prove to be the case.
In any case, I do indeed have some measure of respect for actually tracking him down--but that's about the only thing so far I can give you a solid thumbs-up on, and I'm a bit sorry to say that this is the case.
It's a good step forward that you're acknowledging where you went wrong and why that is so--this is a good development in diffusing this whole thing.