As low as you guys got shafted (and believe me I feel for you both) at least you were given the chance to experience romance or relationships. I have no such luck in my life. I'm the quintessential outcast of society. 36 years old and still have no-one to share anything with. Never given the chance. At all. And believe me 2015 was the worst I felt as my bodily functions were screaming for me to get it on with a woman. All I could tell myself was this: "Not going to happen body, deal with it. The women don't see you in that way. They never have and can't be bothered to do-so now. You're a loser. Just like the f@#ked up, broken down, outdated school system wanted you to be." Yeah... I'm glad I'm not a military dictator or a corrupt leader cause then everyones' heads would roll :P
Other then that, the other thing that is f@#king stupid about 2015 is we still don't have hover conversion for cars, boards, etc. or even Mr Fusion to permanently retire all those outdated fossil fuels we're still (unfortunately) using. We should have had those a looooong time ago.
Yeah, that's another problem with the online dating scene--you're not the only one who's experienced it, brother, we feel ya. There are a lotta crazies and flakes on dating websites cause there's no easy way to filter 'em out, that's the problem :/
Dude, and this is probably going to sound wrong because there's no way for it to sound right but females always have a list of criteria for guys even if they aren't models so here it is..(as fucked up as that sounds.)
One thing that I noticed that bugs me is big chicks constantly taking these uber close up pics of their faces trying to purposely leave their bodies out of the pic. It just looks dumb and you can tell what their doing.
Or taking pics withsuper hot skinnyfriends!
Oh, that's funny, I can't believe you noticed it too - quite a lot of girls in my country too putting up "over 6 feet (1.80 m) tall" as a condition for men they're looking for. WTF? Why do you even care so much about a man's height? I mean, it's ridiculous. I understand if you're picky about a man's physique. But height? Most guys don't grow that high! And you're girls! You're all 5.2 - 5.6 anyway, why is that important?
Darkmanx, I would ask myself is some online dime is on some stuck up bs, you have to wonder if there's nothing strange on the outside then what's going on on the inside for her to be online and not taken by the man of her dreams? Sometimes it's what people don't say that will tell you all.
That is some awesome advice! Glad to know you've done your homework ;) Believe me I'm always on the alert when it comes to negativity. I'm what you'd call empathic--someone who's more emotionally sensitive then others. Be it through word of mouth or reading threads I will feel the emotions behind the words. Especially the negative comments. Granted i will not always understand the online reads which is why I take my time and mull it over first before replying. I wish others would do the same as it avoids much unneeded conflict. That one of the main reasons why I try to stay away from conflicts on this forum or when I'm with other people, as I just absorb negativity like a sponge and I feel somewhat sick afterwards. And it's very difficult to get out of that spot too. It sucks being empathic but I'm stuck with it unfortunately.
Last, but not least, there is this idiot of a "friend" of mine. He wants me to play COD: Zombies All. The. Damn. Time. Even when I have a big test to study for, I get a text, "do you want to play online?" For one thing, I am tired of playing the same maps over and over, and I also am tired of him as well. He is unwilling to compromise and play something else, and he will make excuses about why he won't do something, and, when I accuse him of doing so, he accuses me back of being judgmental, when he was judgmental over me wearing a shirt over to his house that he didn't like. This wasn't some shirt that was shaky or anything; it was just a picture of Call of Duty: Advanced Warfare. However, since this friend of mine is a Treyarch and Xbox fanboy, he will do whatever he can to tick me off if I don't agree with him about everything.
Another thing I had going on this last year was me building a gaming PC, and he did not like that due to him wanting me to get the Xbox One. For what, you may ask? Call of Duty Black Ops 3, a game with system requirements that he could afford more easily than I could. (the game is not demanding at all) He has two part time jobs, where as I had to go and practically sell all of the systems and games that I had to get the PC put together that I am using right now to type all of this. If he wants to accuse anyone of being judgmental, he should be realizing he's no better. But no, he's always right, and I'm wrong. He was so desperate that he bought me an Xbox One even though he said he would not do so. All of this contributes to the latest problem that occurred last night, where I told him that I don't want to play Black Ops 3 until he goes to bed since I had stuff to do when I arrived home, and, not to mention, I had spent my afternoon playing the game with him, and had other games I'd rather play. We got into a heated argument before I left, and, while he thinks I'm his friend, the truth is, I just want to be done with him. He does not respect me for who I am, and he does not take responsibility for how he treats me. I put up with him ever since high school and, while I enjoyed being around him then, it just pissed me off to no end when I started going to college how he just didn't care for my goals and what it takes to accomplish them.
Throughout all of this, I just wish I had someone who was willing to accept me for who I was, and not criticize me destructively for what I am not. Not to mention, my big goal in life right now is getting a job so I can get a consistent stream of income for myself so that way I can be financially independent of my parents and do some of the things that I really want to do. But when you have friends from your high school days that don't mature, classes that you thought you could pass being much harder than anticipated, and unnecessary drama, I just about lost it at times near the end of 2015 in particular.
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EDIT: Soooo, for people that read my initial post about getting stood up on New Year's Eve check this shit out, this particular female that I met online actually messaged me! 4 days later none the less!
She says hi and she just wanted to apologize about not getting back with me after trying to meet and that she had intentions to wanting to meet and didn't. (No shit.)
She then goes on to say sorry, and then hopes all is well with me and to new beginnings!
I don't plan to nor didn't even respond to her text.
All I know she could have dumped me to go out with some other guy and now that didn't work she could just be trying to use me as her plan B. I dunno if this is actually the case but I already have an over active imagination. lol
What do you guys think about this turn of events?
All I know she could have dumped me to go out with some other guy and now that didn't work she could just be trying to use me as her plan B. I dunno if this is actually the case but I already have an over active imagination. lol
It's good to know that your situation is turning around for the better. But remember--be vigilant. You never know when it will all go south and you'll need a back-up plan in case it does. The last thing you need is to be caught with your pants down over a misunderstanding. Other then that, I wish you luck darkman_429 ;)
Didn't go all that way yet, but already met a woman who answered several of my messages and offered to talk on facebook, so I agreed and added her as a friend. Then messaged her and she didn't respond. (even though facebook told me she read the message and saw she was active) Messaged again, again no response. So several days later, unfriended her. After about a week, sends me another friend request. wtf? lol, rejected obviously.
2015 was the year I hit the dreaded age of 40, felt like shit that entire day, not sick, just down. I'm over it though, but the years seem to be flying by faster and faster now. And you guys seem to stay the same age. ;)
Or just use this as motivation:
"I'm not 40. I'm 18 with 22 years experience."
Then you'll forever be 18! ;)
@Darkmanx I just would like to offer you some advice, that is so long as you'd like to accept it.
Man, I know exactly how you feel about all the online dating/ networking stuff.
I went through a long patch on and off where I used it, and 90% of the time it didn't feel great.
At times I felt like people were making me feel like shit, some people were a bit fucked in the head themselves, and some had wayyy unrealistic expectations which could be seen from a mile away (reading the first 3 lines of their profile, you know those are trouble..)
Other times I met people, it was fine and it didn't last, but it ran its course.
At one point I had so much disdain for online anything that I deleted my facebook account, and I was much happier for it.
However, I will say this especially about the italicised part above. The only person responsible for how I felt was 'Me'.
In truth nobody made me feel like shit but myself. I felt like it was other people because I was probably in a place of self discovery, maybe not truly knowing what I was expecting or not being totally ready or open to what life had in store for me next.
I'm not saying everyone is exactly like me as people are all hardwired differently, all I'm saying is "don't let the bastards grind you down."
Don't sweat the small stuff; you miss a bus you catch a train or a cab, a woman doesn't text you - another will be calling you at some point.
I see some frustration toward specific situations re: online, but the one thing that IS a plus with it is putting yourself out there in the first place, so good on you for doing that. Hey, if it's not for you at least you gave it a shot. It may or may not serve you down the track if you choose to use it again. It's always an option. (Not sure which apps you were using, but I always found oasis or rsvp worked the best and had the most normal women.)
All I'm saying is mate, there are decent people out there. It sucks when there don't seem to be any but don't focus on those aspects because if someone stands you up for one night (even being NYE) you can spend an hour thinking about it or one week, but you have to ask yourself, what emotional dividends or other is this gaining me? After all, you only get in what you put out. when you train at the gym, you wouldn't focus on not getting results because no matter how much you lift nobody and I mean nobody is getting results with negative mindsets. As an example, The other way to think about it is: This woman stood me up, Thank GOD!! She saved me dating her for a year to find out she was aloof." ;D
Anyways hang in there man, online or not you will find your way. CVDungeonites are all on the same team here, and by that I mean Team Charlie Sheen ("Winning" not AIDS) :-X
Peace