Topic: I think I need a 'girl-friend'.

[Neobelmont]

Hooker or sperm bank.

I would rather prefer the old fashioned way. A woman needs no tube or vial or whatever is used they need a man and like wise we need a woman.

I'll stay away from hookers and find my girl and do what we are suppose to do.

[Inccubus]

Swap out certain parts of that with 'strawberry blonde' & 'open minded Christian' & you have wittle ol' me. :3

My ex is a strawberry-blonde!  O_O ... *Drops dead.* XP ... Just kidding! I'm sure your hair is beautiful and I wouldn't hold any similarity to my ex against you.

You both seem like upstanding gents, for reals. I'm sure you'll find the Alice to your Alan Wake someday.

Aww, thanks! +1 for you! :3

I think you just described me 

Ha! I was thinking the same thing! Only I'm Cuban of Romanian descent. (In my mind I like to hold on to the remote possibility that I might be distantly related to Prince Dracula.) I don't have the olive, though and my grandfather was a Sasquatch. (Fortunately I'm not nearly as bad as he was.) I've pretty much always been a slightly over weight too. Turning 30 didn't help that at all and about to become 35 it isn't getting much better. I also try to be active to thwart my metabolism deciding it's better to store fat than burn it for energy. (Damn you, metabolism! Damn you!!) Never been into sports, though. I prefer exercise and dancing. Oh, and I often get mistaken for being Arabic. People say it's because of my eyes, but I dunno.

There's your problem. I lived in South Florida my entire life and from my experience, most women down here are absolutely detestable, materialistic, and self entitled in every way.

This is true for the majority of everyone down here; men, women, native, immigrants. It must be something in the water that I'm immune to.

With a pseudonym like Inccubus, you would think it shouldn't be hard for you to get back into the game.

Getting into the game isn't an issue. However, finding any kind of a quality woman in my area is. I don't stress about it much though. I know it'll happen eventually. But I have definitely been enjoying being a bachelor.

[Jorge D. Fuentes]

Hooker or sperm bank. All I can say. Every one of my experiences with women has led me to believe Grand Theft Auto is the way of the world, or at least it should be. Fuck'em. Kill'em. Get your money back. At least my last one returned my ring without me having to club her over the head for it.

With a pseudonym like Inccubus, you would think it shouldn't be hard for you to get back into the game.

I find your misogyny disturbing.  That post is almost borderline psycho behavior (even if you could do it in the game.  Since I get the reference I can see what you meant, but an outsider reading this might think you're disturbed).

I know some women in your life did you wrong... but you might want to seek Therapy or something.  That was too strong.

[Neobelmont]

Hmm I have a question for you guys and girls too.

How do you handle rejection or breaking up.

How painful is it?

It must be a really horrible feeling.

How does one brace themself for it?

[Jorge D. Fuentes]

Rejection is a part of life.
You get rejected for a job if there was another candidate who was picked.
You get rejected in a sport if you appear to not be as competent as someone else.
You get rejected by peers in school because peers at times are clouded by clique attitudes and peer pressure.

Sooooo to answer your question: You've been rejected all your life, and rejection will continue to happen.
With all ways of it you buck up and move on.  People have their own ways:

-Assume the other person didn't pick you because they have terrible taste
-imagine the other person will have a terrible next relationship by choosing someone who you feel was not as good to them as you would have been.
-Find someone better, less crazy, or a better fit for you.
-Drown your sorrow in alcohol.
-Invest your newfound free time into a hobby and improve yourself.
-Copious amounts of pornography.
...and many others!

...everyone has their own thing.

[Neobelmont]

Rejection is a part of life.
You get rejected for a job if there was another candidate who was picked.
You get rejected in a sport if you appear to not be as competent as someone else.
You get rejected by peers in school because peers at times are clouded by clique attitudes and peer pressure.

Sooooo to answer your question: You've been rejected all your life, and rejection will continue to happen.
With all ways of it you buck up and move on.  People have their own ways:

-Assume the other person didn't pick you because they have terrible taste
-imagine the other person will have a terrible next relationship by choosing someone who you feel was not as good to them as you would have been.
-Find someone better, less crazy, or a better fit for you.
-Drown your sorrow in alcohol.
-Invest your newfound free time into a hobby and improve yourself.
-Copious amounts of pornography.
...and many others!

...everyone has their own thing.

It's interesting to hear how folk deal with things like these  and stuff. Man I remember when  got rejected at prom well over a dozen times but dammit I won in the end I tell ya 

[Lone Wolf]

Rejection is a part of life.
You get rejected for a job if there was another candidate who was picked.
You get rejected in a sport if you appear to not be as competent as someone else.
You get rejected by peers in school because peers at times are clouded by clique attitudes and peer pressure.

Sooooo to answer your question: You've been rejected all your life, and rejection will continue to happen.
With all ways of it you buck up and move on.  People have their own ways:

-Assume the other person didn't pick you because they have terrible taste
-imagine the other person will have a terrible next relationship by choosing someone who you feel was not as good to them as you would have been.
-Find someone better, less crazy, or a better fit for you.
-Drown your sorrow in alcohol.
-Invest your newfound free time into a hobby and improve yourself.
-Copious amounts of pornography.
...and many others!

...everyone has their own thing.

Jorge..... I love you. lol XP
No really, i totally agree what you said! Except for "drowning your sorrow in alcohol", cause i don't think it would kill the pain for complete...

[Inccubus]

Hmm I have a question for you guys and girls too.

How do you handle rejection or breaking up.

How painful is it?

It must be a really horrible feeling.

How does one brace themself for it?

You don't. It happens. You deal with your emotions as best you can and eventually you move on when you're ready. I was with my ex for over 6 years. I married her intending to be with her for the rest of my life. I was devastated when it ended. I hurt for a long time and set my sights on making myself better. In a way being selfish helped me quite a bit. What I mean by that is I made my life about me again since, while I was with her, my life became about her.

Boob talk.

I love 'em all!! But I do have an upper and lower limit. Not so small you look like a pre-teen boy, and not so big that you look like a caricature of yourself.

[Jorge D. Fuentes]

@Lone Wolf:
Everyone has their own thing and way to cope with unpleasant moments.

[Neobelmont]

You don't. It happens. You deal with your emotions as best you can and eventually you move on when you're ready. I was with my ex for over 6 years. I married her intending to be with her for the rest of my life. I was devastated when it ended. I hurt for a long time and set my sights on making myself better. In a way being selfish helped me quite a bit. What I mean by that is I made my life about me again since, while I was with her, my life became about her.


I love 'em all!! But I do have an upper and lower limit. Not so small you look like a pre-teen boy.

Man... 

And boobs are boobs yet, I do not want a flatboard. I like smaller chests not a complete flat one.

[Laina]

@Lone Wolf:
Everyone has their own thing and way to cope with unpleasant moments.

Quite true. I've done very "questionable" things while coping with break-ups (2 major ones in my life). For the first one, it was like I had completely detached from myself; it sounds cliched, but I was outside of myself, looking in. I was so very destructive, lashing out at everyone around me. Looking back on it, I'm truly ashamed of myself, but at least I learned & grew from the ordeal.

 Break-up number 2 I handled better I suppose-it was much more internalized, but I still fell back on the old self destructive habits like before, just different ones this time. I won't go into detail, but again I deeply regret it all. Fortunately, I also learned & grew as a person from this one as well. It's been a long, hard road, but I'm actually happy in a way to be where I am now & to have the knowledge these experiences brought with them. I never wanna do it again, but I'm glad I made it through it & can have what I have now. It gives me hope for the future in a way...

[Neobelmont]

Quite true. I've done very "questionable" things while coping with break-ups (2 major ones in my life). For the first one, it was like I had completely detached from myself; it sounds cliched, but I was outside of myself, looking in. I was so very destructive, lashing out at everyone around me. Looking back on it, I'm truly ashamed of myself, but at least I learned & grew from the ordeal.

 Break-up number 2 I handled better I suppose-it was much more internalized, but I still fell back on the old self destructive habits like before, just different ones this time. I won't go into detail, but again I deeply regret it all. Fortunately, I also learned & grew as a person from this one as well. It's been a long, hard road, but I'm actually happy in a way to be where I am now & to have the knowledge these experiences brought with them. I never wanna do it again, but I'm glad I made it through it & can have what I have now. It gives me hope for the future in a way...

Break ups suck   

I'll say right now this is one of the most interesting threads in a while just so much different experiences or experiences to be,  visions of what folks want in a man or woman it's very insightful.   

[Lelygax]

I just didn't recovered and here am I. Yeah this sucks.

[Shiroi Koumori]

In all aspects of rejection, the most important thing is for you to rise up and face the new day instead of wallowing in the past.
Yes, things would hurt for quite sometime (cope with whatever you please as long as you don't go on the destructive), but always remember injuries would heal in time and learning from experiences makes us grow into a better person.

I might sound cliched here, but that is how I deal with things.

This might help too:

Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

© Max Ehrmann 1927

[Neobelmont]

I'm just so eager. 

 

I just didn't recovered and here am I. Yeah this sucks.

Well at least you met some good folk here I hope.