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Title: Living situations
Post by: Abnormal Freak on September 16, 2012, 02:38:27 AM
Just wondering what y'allz' livin' sitchiations is.

I'm in the same home I've been in since about age 3. I'm nearing 27. I moved out once to an apartment but it didn't work out so well because I blew my engine on my car and had to be stuck with my parents till my dad and I fixed it, and I still worked for my dad and did all my things in this town still, so I was wasting a lot of gas. I lived there for five months of the 12-month lease, and it was pretty cool to be on my own in an area closer to things I like and I could walk places. Saturday matinees became a regular thing since a theater was a couple miles away.

I'm not fond of apartments, though, so I'm not sure I'd like to pursue that again.

Thinking I'd like to get a modest house of my own, but I'm such a money-wasting schmuck it would take me forever to make enough money. Suppose now's a good time to start?

I just feel that, damn, I'm getting pretty old and people in this society think you're a pretty big piece of shit for still living at home, regardless of the fact I'm my dad's right-hand man at his business and also around the house (upkeep and that, helping with cars, etc.). It's a load of crap in my opinion, but after hearing it for so many years, it kinda gets to ya, and I am starting to wonder, "Just what am I going to do with myself?"

So as I'm pondering this, I'm just curious to know where you all are currently: with the parents, in a house with roomies, in an apartment alone, under a bridge, whatever. And if you're at a dorm or boarding house, feel free to mention so, but I'm more interested where your more permanent home (away from school, military) is or what you plan it to be.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Lelygax on September 16, 2012, 03:10:50 AM
I live with my father and his woman in a apartment, the same house that I lives since 3 or 4 years of life. My plans? I dont know. Job? I dont know. What will I do? I dont know. Im only living my days tying to find a "cure" to me, since after some things happened in my life 6 or 7 years ago I lost more and more my motivation to do anything or even live. Sometimes I even wonder why I wake up everyday instead of simple dying while I sleep and never woke up again.
 What they say about you doesnt matter, what matter is what you and your family think, the rest of people doesnt know about your life and nor pay your food, water or electricity, so let them be. The important thing is that you have a job and at least seems to be happy where you are.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: crisis on September 16, 2012, 08:44:00 AM
Abnormal Freak, don't feel bad my man, I'm 27 and still live at home (sheesh). But my situation's kinda unique, cuz soon my parents are actually moving out, leaving the house to me. They purchased their dream house but don't wanna sell this house, so they expect me to stay here & keep things "up to date." But now all my friends want to move in with me since word travels fast around here "hay when ur rents moving out, so we can move in lol?"

A couple of my other friends actually live in their own house & chip in on the rent, it's more like a frat house (but with girls living there too). So anything you can imagine happening, a alcohol-fueled environment which contains plenty of sex drugs & rock n roll, happens. It's pretty crazy there, lol.

So don't feel bad still living home while in your 20s. When you're 35 still living home, that's the time to worry lol. When I'm in my thirties I plan on finally gtfo here & renting my house out, have no idea where I'll be living then but the prospect is intruiging to say the least. prunyuu
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Inccubus on September 16, 2012, 09:04:05 AM
Well, I got one up on both of you 27s.
I'm 34, as I've mentioned on several occasions. I lived with my parents until I was 22 when my father passed away. With a disabled mother, and not a hell of a lot of help from my father's other 8 children from his previous marriage, I moved into an apartment with her until I was 28. At which point I moved in with my then girlfriend into her apartment. As some of you know I eventually married her and was subsequently divorced from my now ex-wife a little less than a year and a half ago. Not having anywhere else to go, I moved back into my old apartment with my mother once again. And I have to say despite not seeing eye to eye with her on certain things, it's been of great benefit to me to be able to live in my old place again. It would have been much harder for me to get back on my feet if I had been stuck on the street where my ex-left me with not 20$ to my name.

Now I've got a decent job, starting my own company, and getting my shit together. Soon I hope to be able to get a place of my own once my company starts to become profitable. So fuck what anyone has to say about you living with your parents. Like Lelygax said, they don't pay your bills, so take any of their criticism with a grain of salt and whole bucket of sea water.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Aridale on September 16, 2012, 09:51:28 AM
Im 32 and live alone (do cats count?) in my own house my grandmother left me. Im not in a bad place in my life but Im certainly behind the curve. I dont have a great job, no benefits, only make 12 an hour... basically live check to check week to week and dont make enough to actually save any. Im rarely ever hurting for the basics and can mostly keep my bills paid up and thats it. I rarely ever have enough left to spend on somethin Id like that I simply dont NEED and when I do its like 30-40 bucks tops. Its like Im just treadin water not goin any where

Its not a bad life the only problem really is that I dont have any benefits or any savings so if somethin happens to my car or somethin Im pretty well shafted
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: X on September 16, 2012, 10:02:57 AM
I'm also 32 and live with my sister, her squeeze and my niece. A bit of a zoo at times but a modest living environment. I would've been out on my own a long time ago but due to the ridiculous rise of housing costs (which show absolutely no signs of dropping) such a thing is virtually impossible. Unless of course the stock market were to be removed from the monetary system then all the wealth would be more evenly distributed amongst the middle and lower class citizens.

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My plans? I dont know. Job? I dont know. What will I do? I dont know. Im only living my days tying to find a "cure" to me, since after some things happened in my life 6 or 7 years ago I lost more and more my motivation to do anything or even live. Sometimes I even wonder why I wake up everyday instead of simple dying while I sleep and never woke up again.

Seriously dude, are you alright? Believe me this is not a healthy thing to think about. Like you I also go through this, but in the end I must tough it out no-matter how much it hurts. Get as much help as you can along the way. There's no shame in it. Does your family know? If not, talk to them and see if they can help you out.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: PFG9000 on September 16, 2012, 10:14:20 AM
Nothing wrong with living with your folks.  That used to be the norm, and there's no reason that shouldn't still be acceptable.  It just makes sense in a lot of ways.  They can help you by providing room & board, and you can help them with cleaning and yard work and all that stuff.  They're more dependent on you as they get older anyway.

I live with my wife and our small zoo (two frogs, a dog, two gineau pigs, a fish, & a horse).  We have our house that we're trying to sell, and it's not happening in this market.  I bought the house four years ago, shortly before I started dating the girl who eventually became my wife.  At the time I had no plans to get married and just assumed I was doing the right thing by getting into home ownership.  The house I bought was great for a single guy - small house, small yard, not much to clean or keep up, and decently priced but in a questionable neighborhood. 

Now that I'm married, we have no space to host family holidays or parties and nowhere for us to go when we're not getting along.  My game room turned into her craft room when she moved in.  So if I want to play games or watch a movie, it had better be at a time when it works for her, because we only have one small living room and have to share it. 

So we're trying to sell our house, but the market has bombed since I bought this one.  If we sell this house now, I'm going to lose everything I put into it and we'll be financially screwed.  But that's what she wants, and I wouldn't mind having more space.

So that's my living situation.  I should never have moved out of my parents' house.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: uzo on September 16, 2012, 11:41:39 AM
27. I live on my own, renting. Wouldn't have it any other way. Peace, quiet, and doing what I want however I see fit. No pets.

I've had a varying career path from Activision, to currently law enforcement. Now I'm in the middle of setting up my own business venture, launching really soon.

No where to go but up, baby!
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Kale on September 16, 2012, 12:04:34 PM
Used to live with parents, now living with brothers, paying bills for electric/water/internet/trash. Got a job I don't much like, but it pays enough.

What business are you guys opening?
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: JR on September 16, 2012, 12:20:13 PM
I'm 31, I live in an apartment with my girlfriend, and we're about to purchase a house. I'm excited, yet pretty stressed at the same time; we're gonna be spending a lot of money just on appliances for the place, and fixing up a couple things (basement windows, carpet, kitchen lighting, etc.). And virtually all of the purchases/repairs to it will have to go on credit cards.  :'( Also, the monthly cost of this place is estimated at being almost $200 less a month than what we're paying to rent, but we only pay an electric bill here, so I have a feeling that utilities will kick our asses.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: TheouAegis on September 16, 2012, 03:49:39 PM
Fuck the utilities. the main reason I don't have a house is because of the taxes. Once you get a house, the government knows you exist. When you live in an apartment, they don't give a shit. (Your landlord is under their gaze.) There was a small house down the street from me in decent shape that went up for $130k and I could have probably talked down to $115k if I tried. With $40k in savings and an IRA my parents set up for me, I could easily afford the house and a loan, but the taxes on the property would shut me down. That and my ex didn't want to move up here so I passed on it. ... Fucking bitch.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Abnormal Freak on September 16, 2012, 03:55:35 PM
I live on my own, renting. Wouldn't have it any other way. Peace, quiet, and doing what I want however I see fit.

This is a nice thing about living with my parents and one of the reasons I haven't felt a need to move out: Since nearing adulthood, I've never not been allowed to do what I want. Even when I was in my mid to late teens (16–18), my parents were pretty lenient about what I do, where I go, when, and so on, as long as I let 'em know what I'm up to, how late I'll be out, whether I'm spending the night at a friend's, etc. They were always really cool about that stuff 'cos they trusted me not to do anything stupid, and for the most part I didn't. So I'd be out till 4 a.m. all the time, heh.

And I still out of courtesy let 'em know when I'm going someplace, where, when I'll be back, and that.

My parents also have a pretty big house, so my room is pretty detached from everyone else and any noise that could bother me. One of my brothers just moved out, so the whole basement pretty much now belongs to my sister and I, and it's a big basement with a pretty sizable living room, three bedrooms (one's technically the library which I commandeered when I was 15), and two bathrooms (one with bath/shower). So it's pretty cozy and spacious here, which would make moving a pain because I have so much stuff and I can't see myself moving it to anywhere less than a house (or a duplex or something of that sort).

So I dunno. It's pretty damn luxurious in a way, and I doubt I could ever think of home as any place other than this. Not now in my young life, at least.

I really ought to seriously start saving, though. I hear what you're saying, PFG, about buying a small home for yourself being problematic now that you're married. I've thought about that myself, getting a home big enough for me, and if I ever get married, that could be a problem, especially when we start having kids, and maybe selling off the old hut wouldn't work out so well. (I really, really hope things go well for you in this regard, by the way.) So I've started thinking, "Well, maybe in a few more years if I'm saving and I have a sweetheart and we wanna get hitched, maybe then it'll be time to buy a house, and one which will fit a family." Who knows if I ever will get married? I'd like to. But in the meantime, I'm kind of hanging on to the idea that I don't really wanna move out from my parents' place until I'm more financially stable and actually have more of a reason to move out—and wanting my own roof for my new family would definitely be a mighty good reason to do so, and I could get a nicer, bigger home from the get-go. My dad sorta did something similar, except he spent much of his 20s traveling the country (with a photography business in the south) and doing military service. When he was done with all that, though, he moved back in with his parents and started working at the bakery again until he got married and my parents got a place of their own. He was somewhere in his early or mid 30s when this happened.

And yeah, the government rapes you of money when it comes to property taxes and the like. It's a hunka burnin' bullshit. Many people don't seem to factor in the homeownership taxes when they get their own house.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Lelygax on September 16, 2012, 07:01:29 PM
Seriously dude, are you alright? Believe me this is not a healthy thing to think about. Like you I also go through this, but in the end I must tough it out no-matter how much it hurts. Get as much help as you can along the way. There's no shame in it. Does your family know? If not, talk to them and see if they can help you out.

 Im a little better right now, but sooner or later that feel will returns, being a day, a week, or a month. My family knows, but all public hospitals that treat depressive persons are full right now, so Im in a "waiting list". Right now I the only thing that they can do is provide some remedy to me.

 I try to do thigns that make me forget atleast for some minutes about my worries and problems, but everyone knows that doesnt matter how far yo try to run, they will ever be near you.
 
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: uzo on September 16, 2012, 08:13:39 PM
What business are you guys opening?

A game development studio.

This is a nice thing about living with my parents and one of the reasons I haven't felt a need to move out: Since nearing adulthood, I've never not been allowed to do what I want. Even when I was in my mid to late teens (16–18), my parents were pretty lenient about what I do, where I go, when, and so on, as long as I let 'em know what I'm up to, how late I'll be out, whether I'm spending the night at a friend's, etc. They were always really cool about that stuff 'cos they trusted me not to do anything stupid, and for the most part I didn't. So I'd be out till 4 a.m. all the time, heh.

And I still out of courtesy let 'em know when I'm going someplace, where, when I'll be back, and that.

It's much more than being let go to do what you want, but how you also do it. No longer do I have to fight over heating, or cooling preferences, or whether or not the cost is worth it. I pay it, I set it to whatever I want. Things like that. Don't like the way I accomplish something? How I organize this or that? What I buy and make for food? Well bite me, not your house, not your rules. Don't like it? There's the door.

I couldn't be happier.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: PFG9000 on September 17, 2012, 04:53:29 PM
I've had a varying career path from Activision, to currently law enforcement. Now I'm in the middle of setting up my own business venture, launching really soon.
You're working in law enforcement?  What do you do?  My wife and I are both in local policing.  Not the most relaxing job, but it's got its fun moments.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: uzo on September 17, 2012, 05:07:09 PM
Head of the Sheriff's computer unit, which includes infrastructure for Sheriff's Office, Jail, and investigation collaboration. Basically anything they need me to do from equipping patrol cars to sending pedos to prison.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Phoenix7786 on September 17, 2012, 09:22:40 PM
My mother and me were abandoned by my step-father, and it's all we can manage to pool money to keep what little we could. That whole-shit (he's not simply a piece) manipulated her into going into debt to get HIM out of debt, then just left afterwards. We lost our home and everything. We're stable, but only as long as we pay attention.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: Sonic_Reaper on September 22, 2012, 07:02:15 PM
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A game development studio.

Please tell me more  :)

I am in the process of working on a game myself, but it is going to be released under a publisher.  Which I don't mind.

I live in a huge house (3000+ square feet) with myself and two other tenants.  One of them is the landlord and he lives on the main floor.  The two of us have bedrooms on the second floor.  We share the kitchen and laundry.  We have our separate living rooms, but the TV currently doesn't work in the one I am allocated.  Doesn't really matter since I don't watch much TV anyway.  We used to have another room mate, but he moved out into his girlfriend's place.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: uzo on September 22, 2012, 07:37:08 PM
Get on MSN sometime. I haven't seen you in like a million years.

I'm not really willing to give away too many public details at this time, but we're developing a PC game. A 2D platformer adventure title. I'll probably post all about it when we're ready for the reveal.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: GuyStarwind on September 22, 2012, 07:41:12 PM
I recently moved to Gresham, Oregon with my sister for school. Anywho we live in an apartment and everything is in walking distance.
Title: Re: Living situations
Post by: TheCruelAngel on September 24, 2012, 09:20:30 AM
Just bought a house 12/31/11! Right at the bottom of the housing fall, so I got a pretty good price for a nice neighborhood.

Just me, my wife, dog and cat. It's a big place too so hopefully the guest room will be for a little one in the future. Until then it was either with my parents (their place is huge with a "mother-in-law" above the garage that my wife and I lived in) or the condo we rented until our neighbors above us flooded us out and then the owner of the condo decided to sell the place.

So I don't see too much shame living with your parents, hell I was just last year when I was 27.  ;D Let's you save up some money, nice home cooked meals now and then and no need to worry about bad roommates!

Though I will admit I miss my old condo since I could walk to work from there, now I sit in traffic for 40~60 minutes each direction everyday.  :'(