I don't really have a lot of people to talk to, being that I'm not a very social person. So I don't really have people to talk to about this. But I've seen a lot of y'all here have had some pretty good advice to give to people about different situations, so I decided I'd ask this here to all of you.
Basically, this last year has been a whole road of shit for me. Back in February last year, I lost my job. It wasn't particularly a good one, just a warehouse job where I worked about 40 hours a week. But it was easy and fun, and I had some good friends there. Then just out of nowhere I got laid off. That put me in a rut. I managed to get rehired there, but it wasn't for a good few months later (in August that same year), and I'm only part-time now, working about 20 hours a week with less pay.
Then in May last year, my grandfather passed away. He was one of the kindest and greatest people I knew. Even with all the crap he took from people, he always had a smile on his face. Even now, I still haven't fully come to terms with the fact that he's gone.
Back in December, I got into my first car accident. I knew one would happen eventually, but I always figured it'd be a small fender-bender or me accidentally denting someone's car by opening my door too fast. Instead, it was me slamming into the side of their car with the front of mine, resulting in their car flipping over. There was a family in the car, and they were all right in the end, but it's left me kinda shaken up since. There was a little boy in the car who was crying, and his mother was pregnant. Even though they were all right, just with minor cuts and bumps, I still get anxious when I think about it.
Last month, two of my family's dogs passed, too. My golden Coby, and my uncle's poodle Sunshyne. I loved both of them a lot, Coby in particular I was really close with. But I haven't come to terms with them being gone either, and I still find myself calling for them and looking for them all the time, completely forgetting that they're gone.
Then just last week, my relationship with my girlfriend of four years ended abruptly. We had major plans, of things like moving in together, and whatnot. And then just... abruptly, it's over. And this has been a real damper on my... attitude, I guess? On everything, really. I haven't been able to focus on anything, be it work, my hobbies, or whatever.
But basically, this is all stuff I've never dealt with before all coming at me so frequently that it's unbelievably overwhelming. I've never had to deal with a death in the family before. The only family member before my grandfather died was my great-grandmother, but I was six at the time and I have almost no memory of her. But my grandfather was the one who raised me and was there for most of my life.
The car accident I've been mostly able to move on from, and I've at least been able to work up the nerve to drive again.
I've had pets that have died before, and given time, I'm able to move on. But the breakup with my girlfriend happened not long after so I'm unable to really focus. And I've dealt with breakups before, but they were never that serious of relationships, and never lasted longer than a few months.
So yeah. What I'm saying really is, how do I deal with all this? There's just so much going on so fast, that I can't find a way to deal with all of it without feeling overwhelmed, which sucks even worse since I have anxiety issues. Just... whatever advice I could get would probably help a lot, and would be appreciated.