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Off Topic => Off Topic => Topic started by: GuyStarwind on August 15, 2013, 10:08:50 AM
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I have a friend who is bipolar and I sometimes get stressed with what to do. Do you guys/girls have any ideas?
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My tip would not to approach the issue as if it were something that requires any special powers. I think you should ask yourself why it makes you stressed out. And is it only recently he/she was diagnosed? If so, your friend is probably just adjusting to it.
Also, things tend to work better when you talk to people themselves.
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Tell him to stop being bipolar and start being bi-winning.
(sorry couldn't help myself. :P)
Seriously though, I think I had a friend like that. I can't say his moods changed constantly but he had some real issues. Had a very narrow set of fields he was absolutely OBSESSED with (to be exact three subjects: Music, Sports, Video games, period.)
He either hated things, loved them or disregarded them completely. We were really good friends for many years but as I grew up I grew sick of him and we both parted ways.
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The only advice I can prescribe to you (as I'm not a doctor) is patients. It's about the only thing you can exercise right now with people like this. Also try to understand more about your friend. If you can sync with this person in terms of likes and dislikes then there shouldn't be much of a problem. In the end though, it's not their fault that they have this mental condition. It's just something that happened and they are the ones whom have no choice but to live with it. And I personally feel that living with a condition of any kind is far worse then tolerating it for brief periods of time.
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Maybe I've this problem so maybe I can help you: If he is not angry, enjoy this moment while you can, for real. If he gets angry, try to know if he really wants you to be near him at said time, if yes, try to dont make jokes or things that you know for sure that he dislike, imagine that something is pissing him off, its like that but theres nothing to piss him off.
I've returned from a hospital right now, maybe I will discover my real situation in some months (wish me luck) :)
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It's a bipolar guy? I heard bipolar girls can get really frisky. Not sure about guys.
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In this case girl.
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I heard bipolar girls can get really frisky.
That's..uh..maybe something that would look nice on a T-shirt..?
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I know someone who is bipolar. She is interested in one thing for a while then suddenly loses interest. When she is happy, everything is great, but when she is depressed, she'll drag you down with her. argh.
I suggest get to know her mood swings. She would show symptoms that would exhibit when her is happy or sad, that would be a guide for you to act accordingly.
I heard bipolar girls can get really frisky.
Only when they are in the mood. They can be bitches when they're not. And always remember, they're eyes are never on you 100% of the time. Oh and they can dump you whenever they feel like it. Be cautious when dating one. ;)
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I know someone who is bipolar. She is interested in one thing for a while then suddenly loses interest. When she is happy, everything is great, but when she is depressed, she'll drag you down with her. argh.
I suggest get to know her mood swings. She would show symptoms that would exhibit when her is happy or sad, that would be a guide for you to act accordingly.
Only when they are in the mood. They can be bitches when they're not. And always remember, they're eyes are never on you 100% of the time. Oh and they can dump you whenever they feel like it. Be cautious when dating one. ;)
Your last sentence is pretty much my issue. Awhile back I made a topic saying I was depressed because of a girl. Well, stupid me forgot she was bipolar. So, I was more or less dumped for a few days and suddenly she starts sending me things saying how wonderful and amazing I am. Well, last night she tells me she's feeling very bipolar and next thing I know she tells me I'm friend zoned. Am I going to get the praising text here in a few days? I've learned if she's tired then I should back away. I'm completely head over heels for this girl and want to make this work. So, I came here asking some second opinions. I've learned patience is very important.
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This is the same girl?? Aww man, this changes the playing field and not necessarily in a good way. Are you 100% sure you want to make this work with her? Your life could be a rough one from here-on out if you decide to stay with her. From the sounds of it she'll be bouncing back and fourth; staying with you, dumping you, staying, dumping, you get the idea. Personally it's a risk that I would not even take. If a bipolar woman asked me to get into a personal relationship with her and I knew what her deal was, I would say no and tell her exactly why. Even if she was hot as hell it wouldn't change a thing. It sounds a little heartless of me, but that's only because I'm looking out for myself, my health and my happiness. I could never be happy with a woman who changes her mind on a whim like that. It would be an ulcer inducing nightmare; very unhealthy for a stable relationship. If you feel you want to giver her this chance then that's entirely up to you. In the end it's your life and your choice. But do try and be careful for your sake, okay? :)
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Do you love her? If you love her enough to endure all this even knowing of the risks, go for it. But be aware that you will get some scars and probably end alone.
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Watch "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" and then decide if you want to try to keep things going with her. Imagine essentially being Jim Carrey not just once but week after week with this girl.
Also, a lot of girls are like that. Hate hate hate you then want to ride your bone till the dogs snatch it away from them. .... Ew, bad allegory.
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I've learned patience is very important.
It takes more than patience. It is tough. I would rather be friends with them than be in a relationship.
Love is one thing, but what happens when you get fed up? People have their limits.
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They are like any other kind of people, they only change back and forth really fast. Also they could be really grateful if you are one of the rare people that really understand him.
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"You don't understand me! No one understands me!"
"I tried! I try! I'm really trying! But then you become someone else and I have to start all over!"
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You have a bipolar person in your life?
If they're any closer than 'friend', you're screwed.
Welcome to an ocean of drama and waves upon waves of moodswings.
I had an internet friend who had bipolar tendencies, and one day everything was great, and the next day he would snap at anything that was said. And that was online, mind you. Since then he's apologized but I don't talk to him anymore. It's just too much work and it's not appreciated/considered.
Bipolar women? Please, do yourselves a favor ant steer clear. You will lose hair over these women.
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It's funny. People with mental problems seem to be the one last group you can still shun and treat like taboo aliens without getting the stink eye.
It's not a flesh eating disease that you get from exposure. If you truly honestly really have that thing called "love" bubbling through your system, I wouldn't hesitate. She's still a human being you might be able to reach if you try. It doesn't necessarily mean she's a bitch.
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It's funny. People with mental problems seem to be the one last group you can still shun and treat like taboo aliens without getting the stink eye.
It's not a flesh eating disease that you get from exposure. If you truly honestly really have that thing called "love" bubbling through your system, I wouldn't hesitate. She's still a human being you might be able to reach if you try. It doesn't necessarily mean she's a bitch.
Thats what Im trying to say, thanks for being the only considerate person here until now. I understand that eveyone is giving their feedback about their experiences, but its start to sound like a stereotype here. If it were any of you that had this kind of problem, would you like to be treated like that and never find someone that loves you because everyone say things like that said here?
Im not perfect and have my problems, so I can at least try to put myself in these people shoes and know that the manner that some things have been said here isnt very cool to them :(
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Well, when they threaten you with a knife about how if they ever see you they'll use it, you kinda remember that sort of thing.
Please remember, that there are different degrees to many mental disorders.
But bipolar people can range from being absent-minded, to full hardcore sociopathic.
I would love to give a more understanding, open-minded piece of advice, but I don't have any. :(
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You sounded a lot more impartial now, there are "people" and "people" (as some persons say). One guy can be bipolar and be normal, while other bipolar can be a killer (maybe because the disease took him over or because another things happened).
Its really tough to talk about these kinds, GuyStarwind if you really want to endure this then good luck, since you will need a lot of patience at first.
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Please remember, that there are different degrees to many mental disorders.
I do. Maybe you should try that too.
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I didn't say do what I do, I said do what I say. :P :P :P
I personally just choose to steer clear. Makes me seem cold and distant and possibly uncaring, but I'd rather not fall into the same quagmires I've had in my past. Apologies if it cuts people off, but I don't want more gray hairs too early. There has been enough drama in my life, and I would rather not add any further drama unnecessarily.
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No need to exlain yourself, you did it pretty well already. :P
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LOL kay.
**bows out**
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*throws in two pennies*
There's a difference between offering a colder-sounding and more reasonable opinion to a question and being an asshole about the topic at hand. Jorge was doing the former. There's no need to jump down his throat because he's offering his advice based on his own experiences. Heaven forbid they don't coincide with yours.
It's like someone getting reamed for asking why [topical event that people will get rabid over with little provocation] is a big deal by comparison to other things.
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Yes, but this is internet, things like that can be confusing to understand at first without a explanation. He did a good one and now (at least me) we can understand that his true intentions (
to ressurect Count Dracula) is good. ;)
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I know. I'll be the first to admit establishing context and tone on the Internet via text is extremely difficult most of the time. However, assuming a particular context doesn't always go well, especially if the context assumed is of a negative connotation. That's what I see happening here; that doesn't mean it IS, but it's what I'm seeing. See? Context IS hard! :P
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Yeah, but if you put salt at someone's wounds this person gonna complain, thats why I said something, because it hurts. Communication is important, thats why I said that I was not liking where it was going. But all is fixed now, nothing to see here xD
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Yeah it's all good in the hood.
Dracula's Hood....
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I think you mean Blacula's hood. 8)
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Im imagining Dracula stealing rich men souls and them gaving them to their poor slaves. Dracula Hood lol
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Dracula's hood! :P
(https://castlevaniadungeon.net/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fmedia.strategywiki.org%2Fimages%2F7%2F75%2FCastlevania_SQ_enemy-dracula.gif&hash=7226922bd8802b547ddb6e68d148fbc59e743168)
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This thing on his head look like Vlad Tepes hat xD
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Dracula's hood! :P
(https://castlevaniadungeon.net/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fmedia.strategywiki.org%2Fimages%2F7%2F75%2FCastlevania_SQ_enemy-dracula.gif&hash=7226922bd8802b547ddb6e68d148fbc59e743168)
That incarnation of Dracula kinds looks like Papa Emeritus II.
(https://castlevaniadungeon.net/forums/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww1.pictures.zimbio.com%2Fgi%2FPapa%2BEmeritus%2BArrivals%2BRevolver%2BGolden%2BGods%2BrRTi6xmv8EBx.jpg&hash=1eec9e258b85b9295f01d3ee6c59cdd51e4f3cb2)
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I didn't say do what I do, I said do what I say. :P :P :P
I personally just choose to steer clear. Makes me seem cold and distant and possibly uncaring, but I'd rather not fall into the same quagmires I've had in my past. Apologies if it cuts people off, but I don't want more gray hairs too early. There has been enough drama in my life, and I would rather not add any further drama unnecessarily.
I don't know if you noticed, but his thread isn't about you.
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I know that.
The response appeared to be directed toward me, so I responded as if it were.
An honest mistake.
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Thanks everyone for the help and support. Sorry to bother people with this stuff too, I just need some extra input here and there.
btw sorry for the late response I went to Florida and didn't bring my laptop
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Did Florida not have internet cafes?
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I dont think that he was so desperate to answer but thats a good question xD
Also no problem bro, its okay, these days in Florida have been cool?
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So long as it's not during the hurricane season, otherwise yer f**ked good. :o