Topic: Could use some advice

[Dracula9]

And yes, that"alpha" male sounds like a dickhead. He probably gets his share, but is a real douche. I bet he has nothing stable and full of drama...

He threw a monthlong hissy fit because he wasn't the best man at his friend's wedding, and at said wedding he got so drunk and belligerent that he had to be escorted off the premises. He also once accused me of trying to impress our mutual friend's girlfriend into falling in love with me(the friend Wrath's got a thing for I mentioned earlier, him and his girl) when I was beating him in an argument on Facebook.

I think that says enough about the kind of person he is.

[X]

Are you sure you're not just me from the future? All that's exactly the same on my end.

Haha, kindred souls maybe as they're very much alike. If it was time travel I was not aware of it when it happened. Either that or I mistook Dr. Who's Tardus for a latrine, lol.

He threw a monthlong hissy fit because he wasn't the best man at his friend's wedding, and at said wedding he got so drunk and belligerent that he had to be escorted off the premises. He also once accused me of trying to impress our mutual friend's girlfriend into falling in love with me(the friend Wrath's got a thing for I mentioned earlier, him and his girl) when I was beating him in an argument on Facebook.

I think that says enough about the kind of person he is

This is just one out the the many incidences that proves just how stupid humanity can degrade itself to. I really hate the whole "Alpha" thing. Leave it to the animals as that's where it belongs. It has no place in modern society. This guy you're talking about could really use a good wake-up call; A heavy dose of reality.

[VladCT]

All this discussion about alpha males got me wondering, why do they constantly act like they have to prove that they got the biggest dicks in the whole wide world?

[Anglachel]

All this discussion about alpha males got me wondering, why do they constantly act like they have to prove that they got the biggest dicks in the whole wide world?

Probably because they confuse that with being a leader. They're not the same.

[Dracula9]

Overcompensation. All that macho-man preening and strutting is the human equivalent of a bird puffing out its feathers to look more intimidating. Whether they have below-average dick sizes is largely irrelevant; they think that they do, and thereby project that outwardly as the tough-guy act.

It's no different than one of the timeless rules of fighting; big talkers are usually weak.

[theANdROId]

*sigh* I had a fair little chunk of stuff written last night...set my laptop down for a moment (I forget why)...and came back to see it had restarted for some reason. |:-/  So I just went to bed.  Anyway, I'll see how much I can remember...it'll probably be quite different than I had though.  And by now there is lots more than when I first tried to post this, so maybe you really don't need advice anymore.  It's here if you want! :-)

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I understand how you feel: not necessarily needing but wanting something to work out just so, the awkward happy/depressing feeling that comes with seeing your friends in a place you want to be...it can all be pretty frustrating.  I was in a fairly similar place for about 5 years, and then watched my cousin struggle in that place for the next 5 years.  I don't intend to imply that any advice I give is especially noteworthy because of that -- just that you aren't the only one that's felt how you feel.  I imagine many have, and I think many forget once they settle down, but you aren't alone.  I've been there, and I remember it.

Admittedly, I've only read through about half of page 2, but from what I've read there have been a lot of good points made already.
- Several have noted the difference in you being a hopeless romantic, and Sloth being asexual.  I'm a hopeless romantic myself, and this was the first thing I thought of as well.  It sounds to me like you're wanting something more "real" and "permanent", and I would doubt you'd ever find that in Sloth.  I get the idea that "opposites attract", but I think there has to be certain similarities for true happiness to occur.  I think in the long run you'll be happier if you can let her go and wait for another.
- Don't give up.  Keep looking (although, be careful you don't look so hard you seem desperate!) because there are plenty of great ladies out there who want someone more romantic -- who also want something real and permanent as opposed to toying with emotions.  I am also a firm believer that we're all like puzzle pieces.  There may be a few that fit pretty close, but if you can wait it out and keep looking, there is a piece out there that is a perfect match.
- The "fairytale ending" is a real thing (how else would we have those 90 year old couples who've been married for 60 years and never fought?!), but it's not really like a Disney movie.  There will be things that you disagree on, there will be times that you "fight" (depending on how you define that term), there will be things about the other that annoy you or that you dislike.  The fairytale happiness doesn't just happen, you have to work at it.  All of this is okay!  When it's the right puzzle piece, the "work" you have to put into it won't seem like work, the annoying things will be far outweighed by the things you like/love, fights and disagreements will be mild and rare.  I know this because I'm living it.  I guess I say this so you don't ever feel like you have to "just settle" for less.  Waiting sucks, but is worth it.
- Enjoy being single as much as you can.  I hated hearing this because I always felt like the person wasn't really listening and was just trying to dodge my problem.  If nothing else, it helps to not only pass the waiting time, but also make it more enjoyable.  Also, I think figuring out how to do this (at least, I had to figure out how to for myself) helps you figure out who you really are, who you really want to be, and what you really want in your life.  This makes relationships work better too.
- I feel like it was mentioned somewhere that you're 20ish, but I can't find that now.  Later, someone says you're young...you really are!  I don't mean there aren't things you've figured out...but rather that in a few years you'll probably look back and think things like, "Why didn't I realize this?" or "Why did I do that?".  I'm beginning to think life is filled with moments where one looks back and realizes how silly they once were...or at least my life is filled with this! ;-D
- In a way...nothing that I or anyone else has said really matters.  At some point, you're gonna have to determine what you really want to do and no matter what anyone else has said, pursue that.  Asking advice is certainly a great thing to do...it helps you figure out what options you have and helps you consider them thoroughly, but in the end only you can decide what is best for you.  You have every skill you need to make a good decision here!  And I should think that no matter how things go, you've got a forum family behind you. :-)

Good luck!

Otherwise, here's a little bit of advice that's a tad more entertaining! I can't testify to it's helpfulness though! ;-)
Strong Bad Email #195: Love Poems

[Dracula9]

Serious bro points, Droid.