And then that somehow mutated into this hot gooey mess and I can't even clearly remember all the particulars of how. I swear to everything I hold dear I don't mean to do this
Anyway, I really wish a mod would come along and lock this damn thread already. What was meant to inspire a friendly but fast paced and intense debate has ended horribly, just like last time. Sorry that this ended such a dramatic and rude disaster.
This is why we take a step back from emotionally-driven opinions before making attempts to open the floor for discourse and discern whether or not the standing argument is bogged down by over-reliance on subjectivity.
I enjoy debating with you most of the time, but there are certain instances whereupon you regard your opinion(s) as greater in objective value than they are. As previously mentioned, you don't see me constructing my arguments here based on my opinions outweighing the facts--my arguments herein are centered around the objective nature of canon details.
And if you're upset by or ashamed of how much heat has occurred, then you may want to consider stopping this kind of behavior:
And mostly because I don't like being demanded to do things by rude people who don't bother with asking nicely.
To me, the argument is essentially this: holding yourself as beholden to whatever is (currently) canon is like arguing numbers, which presents a finite amount of everything present. It is inherently limited.
Otherwise we trap ourselves into a grey world of "what's your favorite" threads and "let's bash Lords of Shadow for the millionth time".
I'd rather encourage the community to seek "I never thought of it that way" instead of "WELL ACTUALLY...!" because it promotes better longevity and, despite passionate negative feelings in the short term, better health of the fan community as a whole.
Canon is great, but don't arbitrarily limit yourself to just one way of looking at things. Read between the lines, form your own conclusions."
It makes me want to play ball by their terms and conditions much more than you demanding I do something to suit your tastes.
Et cetera, et cetera. I'd quote other posts in other threads for emphasis, but I'm keeping it relevant to this thread alone for clarity's sake. You throw down the gauntlet and then get defensive and accusatory when things don't go your way--all this guarantees is that you're gonna piss people off, something completely counterintuitive to what you claim to be is your endgoal for the fanbase. It's great when you realize you're dug yourself a hole and display open humility, but it shouldn't take a shitstorm for you to be humble about your opinions. Kinda defeats the purpose of humility when it's selective only when you're out of other options.
It's like you went to a biker bar and punched a random dude in the nuts, tipped over all the bikes outside, and told everyone there to fuck off...and then got surprised when a bar brawl started. You get what you give.
Now, let me break down the above quotes just for good measure of explaining what I mean.
And mostly because I don't like being demanded to do things by rude people who don't bother with asking nicely.
1: Most folks here have, at some point or another, granted you the levels of courtesy and tact you seem to be requesting with this assertion. Your unwavering opinions and pontificating of them more likely than not contributed to them feeling their goodwill was wasted, and over time gradually pissed off and frustrated them from dealing with it multiple times.
2: You mean like the guy declaring something factual and objective to be worthless and that his opinion and skills are superior to those who have been doing it for a living for decades?
3: "I don't like being told to fuck off and wish everyone would treat my discussions respectfully, so here's me doing the inverse to them--why are they telling me to fuck off and not treating my arguments the way I'd like?
??"
4: You get what you give. People react to what you hand them, and if you hand them something shitty you relinquish the right to be taken aback when they react negatively in return. It'd be different if you presented your arguments in a manner that didn't shit on the canon-faithful or narcissize itself as greater than those who created the world and lore long before you had your own thoughts on the matter, and were still being met with the same kinds of responses. But you didn't, so it's not.
To me, the argument is essentially this: holding yourself as beholden to whatever is (currently) canon is like arguing numbers, which presents a finite amount of everything present. It is inherently limited.
Sure, keep making boldfaced assumptions and lumping anyone who values the canon into a "you're inferior to me because you don't think like I do" pen and pointing at them in the village square. That's a good way to get people to treat you and your arguments more tactfully.
Otherwise we trap ourselves into a grey world of "what's your favorite" threads and "let's bash Lords of Shadow for the millionth time".
True, same old shit gets boring, but that's not your call to make. Fans can discuss whatever the hell they want and you don't get to control what subjects are and are not "valuable." This is not 1984 and you are not Big Brother.
I'd rather encourage the community to seek "I never thought of it that way" instead of "WELL ACTUALLY...!" because it promotes better longevity and, despite passionate negative feelings in the short term, better health of the fan community as a whole.
Altruistic and noble as a cause, but again not your call to make. Growth of any community is like evolution--you cannot force it to advance at a faster rate because you're impatient. It is a slow and tedious process that yields the most sensible contextual outcome naturally over time.
Canon is great, but don't arbitrarily limit yourself to just one way of looking at things. Read between the lines, form your own conclusions."
Again with looking down on anyone who disagrees with you. "Form your own conclusions...but if they conflict with mine they're wrong."
It makes me want to play ball by their terms and conditions much more than you demanding I do something to suit your tastes.
Completely hypocrisy. You rubbed another man's rhubarb and now you're surprised he's rubbing back. Not how it works. You don't get to control how people interact with you. All you have control over is how you yourself interact with them, which will affect the inverse over time. You make brazen assumptions and accusations, you reap the repercussions of those being assumed and accused upon.
So all in all you don't like the reception you've gotten. That's fair. You might've started it but it's fair enough to have misjudged the tide and regret taking a dip.
Way I see it, you have two options:
1: Apologize and self-deride in too-late humility, drop off the map for a short period, and then come back and do it all again later as you've done in the past, ensuring the shit will continue again later anyway. You've done it before and it annoys the shit out of me when you have, but it's your decision regardless of what I think of it (boy, doesn't that sentence sound familiar?).
2: Actually look at what you're doing and saying and the effects that has, and make a change in some form or another that counters those effects from happening again. Since people here generally aren't braindead or unmovably prejudiced about X or Y, it should be obvious that reception to your thoughts will be dependent on the manner in which you present them. Do a better job of that, and more favorable results can be expected. It's basic social psychology--you act the mickey, you shouldn't be surprised if the rest of the Disney cast shows up.
It's up to you, in the end. You can apologize and then just do it again later and invalidate that apology, or you can actually try and work on the things you do that piss people off to begin with. Most counterarguments here have less to do with your actual opinion and more the way you presented it, which I think says a lot about the people here.