It's harder being a girl liking this kind of stuff, believe me. :(
Don't worry Jester. I understand your love of Castlevania. Being one of my favorite game series, I am also veryCopy and paste what Kaori said.nerdypassionate about it. If you think it's hard being a guy trying to explain Castlevania to girls, trying being a girl like attempting to explain Castlevania to pretty much anyone without them thinking you're a dork. It's harder being a girl liking this kind of stuff, believe me. :(
Of course the prevalence of insecure testosterone fueled 12 year olds, and 30 year olds who act like 12 year olds, on the wretched hive of scum and villainy that is Xbox Live also discourages women from being open about their gender. A culture where boys/men who don't have the balls to do catcalls in real life (or even talk to a girl).
This angers me. IIRC a catcall is like a whistle right I refuse to do that I prefer to get up and talk to them that's just me.
A day ago right before basketball class I was talking to three girls( two who were fellow basketball players) and the day before I was talking to two girls (twins) that were in my math class back in high school ( one of them use to run their fingers through what use to be my curly hair before I got a hair cut) and awhile before that I was talking to an other girl in my piano class about what song she was going to play. Hell I even got a number from a girl in basketball but she said she was not interested in dating( yet I heard something about her going to a dodger game or something with some other guy that kind of put me in a sour mood but what ever I still talk to her, also I'm new to trying to get a date my love life in HS was a complete low to nonexistent ). Regardless I use to be somewhat shy but some where down the line I snapped and said f*&^ it to my self. Now it's just a matter of being bold.Bold yes, in the sense that you must have self confidence. Remember if you want to get someone else to like you, you need to make sure you like yourself first.
Yeah a catcall is a form of verbal sexual harassment were you would have somebody yelling out in public to someone they've probably never met "Hey baby why don't we X" or whistling and making lewd comments about their anatomy. (Complimenting someone on their looks is one thing, singling them out and yelling in public about how sexually pleasing they look and what kind of sex acts you'd like to do to them like they're not even a person is another.) It's basically the IRL version of a lot of the taunting you're likely to hear on XBL. Here's an article if you care to read a little more on it http://www.cnn.com/2012/10/06/living/street-harassment (http://www.cnn.com/2012/10/06/living/street-harassment)
Bold yes, in the sense that you must have self confidence. Remember if you want to get someone else to like you, you need to learn to like yourself first.
Of course the prevalence of insecure testosterone fueled 12 year olds, and 30 year olds who act like 12 year olds, on the wretched hive of scum and villainy that is Xbox Live also discourages women from being open about their gender. A culture where boys/men who don't have the balls to do catcalls in real life (or even talk to a girl) show each other how manly they are by sexual harassment over a headset.
I remember the cat call because of the murder of emmett till because of a short paragraph in my political science book.
Like my self... I never really did not understand why girls do not like me in this way. I have not even gotten my first kiss yet :'(
I wonder why is it because I'm a big guy? ( and no I'm not some stagnated guy I play sports and hell I have a football ring and a trophy from lacrosse! I do not like to slack and I play good defense in basketball)
For the same reason, I'm not much into online multiplayer. I'd much rather play with people I know personally next to me.
I'd stream videos if it weren't for the fact that every time I've done so the result always seems to be a # of male viewers telling me to take off my clothes. You'd think there were enough explicit materials on the internet for people to be satisfied... >_>
For the same reason, I'm not much into online multiplayer. I'd much rather play with people I know personally next to me.
I'd stream videos if it weren't for the fact that every time I've done so the result always seems to be a # of male viewers telling me to take off my clothes. You'd think there were enough explicit materials on the internet for people to be satisfied... >_>
Yes you gotta like who you are first, some people think getting a partner will solve all their problems and it doesn't work like that. No one wants to constantly have to cheer up a sad-sack, when you have to do that you're not a partner- you're a nanny. This is not to say if you become depressed your partner will leave you, in fact they won't if they're worth having. Just that being depressed might not be the best time to look for love.
Personally, the woman who is the love of my life did help me pull out of a deep years-long depression but we were just friends at the time, we didn't become romantically involved until years later. (She's also the one who got me into gaming and is still a bigger and better gamer than me.) It sounds to me like you're putting too much pressure on it, and too much stock into designated timetables of when these things are "supposed to happen". They happen at their own pace. Don't place a lot of pressure on finding "the one" or whatever, just make friends and maybe you will click with some of them, maybe you won't but you will have another friend then, it's a win-win.
I'd stream videos if it weren't for the fact that every time I've done so the result always seems to be a # of male viewers telling me to take off my clothes. You'd think there were enough explicit materials on the internet for people to be satisfied... >_>
that don't look down on women and really appreciate it when a woman knows her share of nerdy stuff.
Thinking about the sexual harassment a little more, specifically the 'nudes plz' type: I can see where that may stem from. Once a nerd guy finds a girl who is into these things, they may want to try their luck. Unfortunately nerd guys sometimes jump the gun on these things, and get side tracked with trying to hit it out of the park instead of taking their time with things. Nervousness? Maybe. Inexperience? Certainly.
Seriously - they do not understand why I play the series. So they ask me what it's about, and I explain it to them. I get so in-depth to the storylines (depending on the canon) that I become to passionate about it and I get a nerdon just speaking about it. And they're like... "You are such a dork..." /rolls eyesThe same happens with my partner, I get so upset lol
And I'm all
le sigh
You don't just understand...
And it makes me go /sadface
I don't really get it. All my life I've always wanted to hang out with cute gals who are into all the geeky stuff that I like, because ideally I'd date or marry a friggin' fellow geek who hopefully shares enough common interests with me that we're not always at odds. I DUNNO, MAYBE THAT'S JUST ME THOUGH.
I don't really hang out in nerd circles because sometimes they're a little too nerdy—or more like just focused on one or two factions of nerddom and taking that to the extreme (whereas I'm fairly branched all over)—so I'm not familiar with guys scoffing at female gamers/nerds outside of the intrawiebz, but if that's really what goes down, I don't really get it. All my life I've always wanted to hang out with cute gals who are into all the geeky stuff that I like, because ideally I'd date or marry a friggin' fellow geek who hopefully shares enough common interests with me that we're not always at odds. I DUNNO, MAYBE THAT'S JUST ME THOUGH.
Figured this was relevant to the discussion of having confidence and not running away to fantasyland (v-games, etc.):
A feel I'm all too familiar with.
That's another side of the "gamer relationship" aspect: you don't have to really find a girl gamer who games with you and shares the gaming love, but find a girl who's open to the concept, understanding, and encouraging to your love of gaming. They do exist. Just have to find 'em.