Topic: Face it, no woman will ever understand my love for Castlevania xD

[jestercolony]

Seriously - they do not understand why I play the series. So they ask me what it's about, and I explain it to them. I get so in-depth to the storylines (depending on the canon) that I become to passionate about it and I get a nerdon just speaking about it. And they're like... "You are such a dork..." /rolls eyes

And I'm all

le sigh

You don't just understand...

And it  makes me go /sadface

[Abnormal Freak]

Surely the numerous women here understand.


Though I'm supposing none are enticed by your nerdon.

[jestercolony]

*snicker*

[Mystic Myotis]

Are you kidding?  I was just talking to a friend of mine about Castlevania, Final Fantasy, and Zelda yesterday and how much I love those series and why.

One of my favorite youtubers is Archengeia, who makes videos that are several hours long where he just talks about how much he loves game X and way.  I've watched some of them multiple times; I like listening to other people who are equally passionate about the things I like.

[Lelygax]

You are looking at the wrong place, thats all.

[Jop]

where i live my brother and i are the only 2 fans of the castlevania series, my friends knows all of castlevania because i tell every thing of the game

[Kaori]

Don't worry Jester. I understand your love of Castlevania. Being one of my favorite game series, I am also very nerdy passionate about it. If you think it's hard being a guy trying to explain Castlevania to girls, trying being a girl like attempting to explain Castlevania to pretty much anyone without them thinking you're a dork. It's harder being a girl liking this kind of stuff, believe me. 

[Flame]

I think lots of us here know that feel.

[Ratty]

It's harder being a girl liking this kind of stuff, believe me. 

Only because according to popular stereotypes you're a mythical creature. Popular culture at large hasn't caught up to the explosion of women into geek culture that has happened over the last 15 years. Starting with anime and games but now encompassing pretty much all of nerdom. This is why you still have shows such as The Big Bang Theory making jokes like "Women? Who read comics? Pshaw!"

Of course the prevalence of insecure testosterone fueled 12 year olds, and 30 year olds who act like 12 year olds, on the wretched hive of scum and villainy that is Xbox Live also discourages women from being open about their gender. A culture where boys/men who don't have the balls to do catcalls in real life (or even talk to a girl) show each other how manly they are by sexual harassment over a headset.

Not to mention the fact that a not-insignificant portion of the male population in nerd culture blames women for their inability to attract the mate they feel they're entitled to. And like other misogynists have decided as a result that all women are out to trick and manipulate them. This is where you get the uproar over "fake nerd girls" it's like "What? A woman who likes the same things I like?! This cannot be, I cast you out vile temptress!"

I think the best way for nerdy women to reverse this stereotype though is to just keep doing what you're doing. Be comfortable and be yourself. Guys who dress up as superheroes aren't grilled on the history of the character so if you cosplay or wear a nerdy shirt you don't have to prove shit to anyone, if some guy says you need a quiz to prove you're a "real fan" and you don't want to bother disproving him just tell him to get bent or ignore him. Eventually people will catch on that not only do you actually exist, but that nerdy women like you are not as rare as they used to think.

PS -
I do think there are some women who pretend to like things they don't because nerd culture is/has recently been "fashionable" (or maybe because they're an actress and the nerd market is the niche they've found) but here's the thing - there are lots of guys doing the exact same thing probably more of them in fact, and they don't get 1/1000th the shit and accusations that women do. If a guy says he's trying to get into comics or whatever it's like "Welcome to the club brother!" while a woman might get asked "Why are you doing this? What are you up to?" Nerdy Guys, the prevalence of the boys club mentality reflects poorly on all of us and it needs to stop.

[Pfil]

Don't worry Jester. I understand your love of Castlevania. Being one of my favorite game series, I am also very nerdy passionate about it. If you think it's hard being a guy trying to explain Castlevania to girls, trying being a girl like attempting to explain Castlevania to pretty much anyone without them thinking you're a dork. It's harder being a girl liking this kind of stuff, believe me. 

Copy and paste what Kaori said.
Being a "nerd" caused me several troubles during high school with other "popular" girls, who thought the things I liked were stupid.
Not to mention the difficult to find a couple.
And just because of that prejudice, because I've been to other places and I could find couples there (like sometimes when I was on holidays).
So, it's pretty common I guess to get that feedback from a society that thinks that it's easier to disqualify than to try to understand that we are all different in our own way.
They think of every one of us like isolated individual people, instead of just another group of people.

[Neobelmont]

 

Of course the prevalence of insecure testosterone fueled 12 year olds, and 30 year olds who act like 12 year olds, on the wretched hive of scum and villainy that is Xbox Live also discourages women from being open about their gender. A culture where boys/men who don't have the balls to do catcalls in real life (or even talk to a girl).

This angers me.  IIRC a catcall is like a whistle right I refuse to do that I prefer to get up and talk to them that's just me. A day ago right before basketball class I was talking to three girls( two who were fellow basketball players) and the day before I was talking to two girls (twins) that were in my  math class back in high school ( one of them use to run their fingers through what use to be my curly hair before I got a hair cut) and awhile before that I was talking to an other girl in my piano class about what song she was going to play. Hell I even got a number from a girl in basketball but she said she was not interested in dating( yet I heard something about her going to a dodger game or something with some other guy that kind of put me in a sour mood but what ever I still talk to her, also I'm new to trying to get a date my love life in HS was a complete low to nonexistent hell it still is sort of ). Regardless I use to be somewhat shy talking to most girls but some where down the line I snapped and said f*&^ it to my self. Now it's just a matter of being bold.

Edit: Also wearing nice clothes helps for instance I got some new clothes recently and a couple hats. Girls love hats and I'm not talking about freaking baseball caps those things are annoying. But most of all who wants a drab guy?  "Every girls crazy bout a sharp dressed man"

[Ratty]

This angers me.  IIRC a catcall is like a whistle right I refuse to do that I prefer to get up and talk to them that's just me.

Yeah a catcall is a form of verbal sexual harassment were you would have somebody yelling out in public to someone they've probably never met "Hey baby why don't we X" or whistling and making lewd comments about their anatomy. (Complimenting someone on their looks is one thing, singling them out and yelling in public about how sexually pleasing they look and what kind of sex acts you'd like to do to them like they're not even a person is another.) It's basically the IRL version of a lot of the taunting you're likely to hear on XBL. Here's an article if you care to read a little more on it http://www.cnn.com/2012/10/06/living/street-harassment

A day ago right before basketball class I was talking to three girls( two who were fellow basketball players) and the day before I was talking to two girls (twins) that were in my  math class back in high school ( one of them use to run their fingers through what use to be my curly hair before I got a hair cut) and awhile before that I was talking to an other girl in my piano class about what song she was going to play. Hell I even got a number from a girl in basketball but she said she was not interested in dating( yet I heard something about her going to a dodger game or something with some other guy that kind of put me in a sour mood but what ever I still talk to her, also I'm new to trying to get a date my love life in HS was a complete low to nonexistent ). Regardless I use to be somewhat shy but some where down the line I snapped and said f*&^ it to my self. Now it's just a matter of being bold.

Bold yes, in the sense that you must have self confidence. Remember if you want to get someone else to like you, you need to make sure you like yourself first.

[Neobelmont]

Yeah a catcall is a form of verbal sexual harassment were you would have somebody yelling out in public to someone they've probably never met "Hey baby why don't we X" or whistling and making lewd comments about their anatomy. (Complimenting someone on their looks is one thing, singling them out and yelling in public about how sexually pleasing they look and what kind of sex acts you'd like to do to them like they're not even a person is another.) It's basically the IRL version of a lot of the taunting you're likely to hear on XBL. Here's an article if you care to read a little more on it http://www.cnn.com/2012/10/06/living/street-harassment


Bold yes, in the sense that you must have self confidence. Remember if you want to get someone else to like you, you need to learn to like yourself first.

I remember the cat call because of the murder of emmett till because of a short paragraph in my political science book.

Like my self... I never really did not understand why girls do not like me in this way. I have not even gotten my first kiss yet

I wonder why is it because I'm a big guy? ( and no I'm not some stagnated guy I play sports and hell I have a football ring and a trophy from lacrosse! I do not like to slack and I play good defense in basketball)

[Mystic Myotis]

Of course the prevalence of insecure testosterone fueled 12 year olds, and 30 year olds who act like 12 year olds, on the wretched hive of scum and villainy that is Xbox Live also discourages women from being open about their gender. A culture where boys/men who don't have the balls to do catcalls in real life (or even talk to a girl) show each other how manly they are by sexual harassment over a headset.

For the same reason, I'm not much into online multiplayer.  I'd much rather play with people I know personally next to me.

I'd stream videos if it weren't for the fact that every time I've done so the result always seems to be a # of male viewers telling me to take off my clothes. You'd think there were enough explicit materials on the internet for people to be satisfied... >_>

[Ratty]

I remember the cat call because of the murder of emmett till because of a short paragraph in my political science book.

Like my self... I never really did not understand why girls do not like me in this way. I have not even gotten my first kiss yet

I wonder why is it because I'm a big guy? ( and no I'm not some stagnated guy I play sports and hell I have a football ring and a trophy from lacrosse! I do not like to slack and I play good defense in basketball)

Yes you gotta like who you are first, some people think getting a partner will solve all their problems and it doesn't work like that. No one wants to constantly have to cheer up a sad-sack, when you have to do that you're not a partner- you're a nanny. This is not to say if you become depressed your partner will leave you, in fact they won't if they're worth having. Just that being depressed might not be the best time to look for love.

Personally, the woman who is the love of my life did help me pull out of a deep years-long depression but we were just friends at the time, we didn't become romantically involved until years later. (She's also the one who got me into gaming and is still a bigger and better gamer than me.) It sounds to me like you're putting too much pressure on it, and too much stock into designated timetables of when these things are "supposed to happen". They happen at their own pace. Don't place a lot of pressure on finding "the one" or whatever, just make friends and maybe you will click with some of them, maybe you won't but you will have another friend then, it's a win-win.

For the same reason, I'm not much into online multiplayer.  I'd much rather play with people I know personally next to me.

I'd stream videos if it weren't for the fact that every time I've done so the result always seems to be a # of male viewers telling me to take off my clothes. You'd think there were enough explicit materials on the internet for people to be satisfied... >_>

That's terrible, I'm sorry to hear that. The only multiplayer game I really play is Killing Floor but the community there seems to be pretty good about this, though I don't usually play in servers with mics enabled so maybe they're worse.