I know I am generally being horribly cynical and sarcastic about stuff, but this is where I need advice. I feel like I'm in a really complicated situation and don't know how to act. Don't know if anyone was ever in such a situation, but if you were, please help with some advice.
The story goes like this: yours truly met a girl. At first she just seemed to me an interesting person to talk to and I haven't considered anything serious. However, we quickly became quite close friends, seemed like we had a lot in common and I found myself sharing with her some things I hardly talk about with my best friends. As we became more attached, I realized she may be the most intelligent and charming girl I've met. And I don't use the term "charming" often. She isn't just pretty, she has a charm that makes you not want to leave everytime you are with her.
Thing is, one of my friends who is a barman told me that when she was in his bar with her friends, some guy tried to hit on her, and she rejected him saying that she likes girls.
I knew I can't just trust his word and one of the days while having a casual conversation, I told her what he said and asked whether it was true. In response, she became embarrassed, started giggling, stuttering, and said at first "no", then "Well, it's a difficult question"
I said that it isn't, and she said "I don't know. Basically, I don't think there should be one answer to that question".
Jokingly, I said that I knew some nice girls, and she responded with "Oh stop that, I'm not looking for a girlfriend."
Needless to say, I found this conversation very confusing. If she just said yes, that would be enough for me to leave her alone. But she didn't. Instead, that response was just what I expected (and kinda feared) to hear from her. Even though she is very intelligent, it seems she is unusually shy and bashful when it come to discussing romance, and maybe scared of commitment. Being the kind of guy that I am, that fact made her even more charming to me.
What complicates the story even further is that she's not from my country. She's a foreign exchange student, which is what made her more interesting to me, while at the same time making any idea of having a relationship harder.
I feel like I'm between the hammer and the anvil. I like her too much to not try and initiate something, and I think she likes me too, but the combination of her shyness and intelligence makes it impossible for any cheap machoist romantic tricks to work on her, so I try to be as gentle and nice as possible with her, because I feel that if I pressure her that would scare her. But I really don't know what to do, whether I could make her like me enough to break the defensive barrier she has against having any kind of relationship that is as difficult. And I'll be damned, she's not the kind of girl I would play around with; hell, she's the kind of person I'd like to get married with.