I'm going to have to agree with X on this here. While I can undrestand not wanting someone to obesse and love another thing more than the one they are going to spend the rest of their life with, it's sounding like she doesn't actually love you, as want you to simply obsesse over her like a slave.
No offense to the woman, but she honestly doesn't sound like the kind of woman I'd like to be my girlfriend or fiance.(Anyone who thinks being a slave to a hot woman needs to be slapped.)
I'm not saying that one shouldn't make changes for the one they love, but it depends on just how extrame and downright insane the changes they demand are. Seriously, does she even know what sort of programming you do? Does she even know that you litterally were putting that aside for today to properly be with her?
It sounds creepy, wrong, nuts, on so many levels. And I'm saying this as a fellow man to another, I think you need a new girlfriend, but it's a take it or leave it situation. It is your own choice in what you do. We're just trying to give some advice. I hope this works out for you somehow.